15 Strategies to Help You Stop Feeling Horny and Be in Control.

Feeling horny at the wrong places and time? As Hornyinthejungle, we get it. 

Everyone has that moment when the fire of desire builds inside them and leads to a heightened state of arousal. Sometimes, you might find that you’re feeling hornier than usual, or for longer than you’d like. Whether it’s a passing thought or a deep lust, it can be difficult to stop feeling horny! Even when you’re trying your hardest to keep your mind on other things and  let off some steam, sometimes it’s just not enough. 

And when that happens, it can be helpful to have some strategies for curbing your libido and help dial down the desire from time to time.

That’s why we have compiled 15 fool-proof strategies to help you put the brakes on and get back in control of your own sexuality when your hormones start running wild. 

Not only are these techniques effective in helping you to stop feeling horny, but some will also help you to re-center and indulge in more calming activities like yoga or meditation. Our list is tried and tested, so give it a go if you’re finding it hard to shake those cravings.

Let’s get started! 

1. Have Sex

You might think the best way out is to take a cold shower, but you don’t have to resort to such drastic measures if you don’t want to. One of the best strategies for getting rid of those pesky hormones is actually having sex.

Sure, it might seem counterintuitive—after all, isn’t sex how you got into this state in the first place? But if your goal is to stop feeling horny, then having sex could actually be the most effective solution. Here are some reasons why:

• It releases feel-good hormones like oxytocin and serotonin that can help relax your body and reduce sexual tension.
• It gives your body an outlet to release all its pent-up sexual energy.
• Having sex with someone else can help shift your focus away from yourself and onto your partner, which can help quiet down that inner voice that just won’t stop nagging you about how horny you are.
• Having an orgasm can increase endorphins in your brain and give an overall feeling of relaxation and tranquility.

So if you’re looking for a way out of that “horny” headspace, one of the best things to do might be getting down with someone else—so long as it’s consensual, of course!

2. Masturbate

Sometimes all it takes is a little self-love. Masturbation can help take your mind off of being horny and help you relax. But don’t think of it as just scratching an itch. Masturbation is an art, and something you can learn to do . Focus on exploring what turns you on and how to make your solo experience feel even more pleasurable and fulfilling.

You can try different techniques for masturbation such as using lube, stimulating yourself in different ways, or using sex toys to add some spice to the experience. Exploring your sexuality in this way can be both intimate and freeing – and can provide a great release to take away the urge of feeling horny.

3. Understand Your Body

You’re an expert on your own body, and to manage your horniness, you need to start listening to it. What are the physical sensations that lead up to you feeling horny? Is it heat in certain areas of your body or a racing heart? How do these physical responses vary depending on someone and something specifically? Get curious about what these signs mean for you so that you can stay one step ahead.

When you understand your body’s natural responses, it’s easier to recognize when the feeling is getting out of control and take some preventive measures. It’s like training yourself to identify a pressure cooker before it starts whistling—you can shut off the heat before reaching boiling point.

Take time out to explore different ways of being intimate with yourself and figure out what makes your body feel good without relying on fantasies or outside sources. When you come from a place of self-love, understanding and acceptance, you’re less likely to spiral into horniness in times when that’s not appropriate.

4. Take a Cold Shower

When desires are running strong, don’t underestimate the power of a cold shower. A sudden burst of cold water can help to shock your body and mind into calming down from an aroused state. You don’t need to use Arctic-level temps or keep it on for a prolonged period—just stand for a few minutes beneath a blast of cool water.

The idea is that the shock and discomfort of the cold will abruptly break your train of thought, switching your attention away from sexual arousal back to reality. As an added bonus, cold showers can also be beneficial for your skin health and can actually boost energy levels as you quickly adjust to the temperature change.

5. Manage Stress Levels

One of the most effective ways to manage your physical arousal is to manage your stress levels.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed out, your body produces more hormones like cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine. These are all necessary for responding to stressful situations, but when they get out of balance, they can lead to an increase in physical arousal.

Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to manage stress levels and help reduce the feeling of horniness:

• Get enough sleep: A good night’s rest will make it easier for your body to regulate its hormones and reduce feelings of arousal. Make sure you designate enough time for quality sleep every night.
• Exercise: Physical activity helps lower cortisol levels and releases endorphins that will bring a sense of relaxation even during chaotic times.
• Acceptance: Acceptance is key when managing stress because it gives you the power to choose how to respond in a given situation instead of being overwhelmed by it. Practice mindfulness or meditation techniques that emphasize self-acceptance as part of your daily routine.

6. Get Some Exercise

Exercise causes a release of hormones and neurotransmitters that can help reduce stress and anxiety, including oxytocin (the feel-good hormone) and serotonin. When your body is producing these happy hormones your libido may be naturally suppressed. Plus, exercise releases endorphins, which trigger a feeling of well-being—a great way to bring down that aroused feeling.

But just any kind of exercise won’t do the trick here. We’d recommend going for something that really gets your heart rate up;running, cycling or jogging. You’ll be producing endorphins like crazy in no time, giving you an extra boost for fighting off those distracting lusty thoughts.

And if you’re up for a real challenge? How about hitting the gym and doing some strength training to really get your mind off things? You’ll be burning up energy instead of burning up with desire!

7. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

When we start to feel aroused, it’s common for us to want to engage in sexual activities. But, it’s important to remember that mindfulness and meditation can be powerful tools that can help us take our minds back to reality and ground ourselves in the present moment.

By focusing on our breathing, sensations in the body, and thoughts as they pass through our minds, we can create a sense of stillness and neutrality in our minds. This can help us to stop feeling so horny and instead focus on our current situation.

Incorporating mindfulness into your life is simple — all you need is a few minutes a day of uninterrupted time. Here are some suggestions:

• Take 5–10 minutes each day for mindful exercises such as focusing on your breath or doing body scans.
• Practice yoga or tai chi if possible — both naturally incorporate mindfulness.
• Make an effort to be present when interacting with others — don’t let your mind get distracted by fantasies or thoughts about sex.
• Set yourself little reminders throughout the day about staying focused and open-minded.

By incorporating mindfulness into your life, you’ll be able to take back control over any urge that may arise from feeling horny.

8. Identify and Reduce Triggers

It’s important to know the difference between healthy physical desire and the kind of thinking and feelings that become hard to control. If you find yourself in a red-hot zone and feel like you need to put on the brakes, it’s useful to go through the motions of identifying and reducing any triggers that are causing your urges.

For example, you might feel aroused when you’re listening to a certain type of music or watching a movie featuring a steamy sexy scene. Maybe it’s scrolling through Instagram or looking at lingerie ads. Whatever your triggers may be, it can help to limit your exposure to them.

9. Adjust Your Sleeping Habits

If you’re finding it hard to control your sexual cravings, try and make sure you get the right amount of rest. When you are sleep-deprived, the body produces more of the hormone oxytocin, which can make you feel more aroused. Additionally, insomnia can drive up your cortisol levels which can contribute to an increase in sex drive.

To get back on track, try:

• Setting yourself a consistent bedtime.
• Limiting the use of electronic devices before going to sleep.
• Adding activities like yoga or meditation into your nightly routine.
• Reducing exposure to blue light by avoiding screen time before bed.
• Limiting caffeine and alcohol intake in the late evening.

With good quality sleep, your hormone levels should balance out, easing any overactive libido. Plus, when we’re well rested our thought process is clearer and we’re generally better able to handle stressful situations that can increase arousal.

10. Prioritize Self-Love and Self-Care

When you’re feeling really horny, your mind tells you it’s time to act on your impulses. But instead of going there, take a step back and practice some self-love.

Self-love and self-care can help you interrupt the chain of physical and psychological reactions that take over your body when hormones are in charge. Here are a few things you can do to prioritize yourself:

• Start an activity. 
• Take a walk.
• Cook your favorite meal.
• Take a bath.
• Watch your favorite show or movie.

11. Find New Hobbies or Interests

If your current hobbies, interests, or leisure activities are all things that heighten your feelings of horniness, why not find some new ones? This can be any sort of activity that takes your mind off of the sexier things in life. Try taking up a hobby like painting or pottery. Or maybe use the extra time to learn a new language, or to finally master those campfire guitar chords.

The goal is to find activities that take up time and energy while also boosting creativity and curiosity. Here are some options to get you started:

• Attend an online class on something like cooking, gardening, photography, or coding.
• Join a club for a cause you care about—you’ll meet new people and do meaningful work.
• Pick up a new workout routine or find new outdoor activities — this one might even help kill two birds with one stone!

Doing anything other than dwelling on the sexier parts of life could provide a much needed respite from your horny feelings. Plus, you’ll also get to enjoy the added bonus of learning and growing while having fun at the same time!

12. Change Your Environment

Changing your environment can be a helpful strategy in managing sexual arousal when you find yourself in a situation that is triggering or overwhelming. This can be particularly effective in situations where you are feeling out of control or overwhelmed by your sexual desire. When you physically remove yourself from the situation, you can gain a sense of control and distance that can help reduce the intensity of your feelings. This can be especially helpful for people who struggle with compulsive or addictive sexual behavior, as it can provide a physical and psychological barrier to acting on their impulses.

It’s worth noting that changing your environment may not always be possible or practical, and it’s important to have other coping strategies in place for managing sexual desire. Additionally, if you find that certain environments or situations consistently trigger your sexual desire, it may be worth exploring why this is the case and working on strategies to address the underlying issues. This could involve therapy, self-reflection, or other forms of personal growth and development.

13. Taking a Break From Social Media

Social media can often lead us down the wrong path when it comes to feeling horny. A lot of times, scrolling through sex-related content can cause us to become aroused more easily as our brains are constantly subjected to these kinds of images and videos. So if you’re finding yourself in this trap, try taking a break from social media for a few days (or even just an hour!) each day—you’ll be surprised at the difference it makes!

14. Seek Professional Help

Sometimes it can be difficult to put the brakes on when you’re feeling horny. That’s where professional help can come in handy. Depending on your specific needs, you may find benefit from accessing psychological and mental health services, experimenting with self-help strategies, attending support groups or talking to a sex coach.

It’s important to note that seeking out professional help is not admitting defeat; it’s a sign of strength and a way of recognizing that you need extra support to help you get back in control. 

15. Avoid Drugs and Alcohol

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you’ve had a little too much to drink or have experimented with drugs and suddenly your sexual desires seem to be amplified? It’s not uncommon for drugs and alcohol to lower inhibitions, interfere with judgment, and even increase sexual desire in the short term. But did you know that avoiding these substances can be an important strategy for managing sexual desire in the long run?

When you consume alcohol or drugs, your brain releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter that is associated with pleasure and reward. This can make sexual desires more intense and difficult to resist.  While this may seem like a positive thing, it can also make it harder to manage sexual feelings and impulses in a healthy way.  

Additionally, drugs and alcohol can lower inhibitions and increase impulsivity, which can make it harder to manage sexual urges or make safe decisions about sexual behavior. This can be particularly problematic if you are in a situation where acting on your sexual desires would be unwise or unsafe.

It’s All About Finding the Right Strategies for You!

Everyone experiences horniness differently, so when it comes to managing it, the key is to find strategies that work for YOU. That means trying out different methods, tracking their effectiveness and then adjusting as necessary. It’s important to remember that what works for some people may not work for others, so be gentle with yourself while you explore different strategies. Take the time to get to know yourself and your impulses, and you’ll be able to find ways to manage your urges and keep them within acceptable bounds!