How to Finger Yourself: The Ultimate Guide for Female Masturbation

We women can stimulate ourselves in several ways to achieve an intense orgasm. From clitoral stimulation to anal stimulation but in this article we will discuss vaginal stimulation.

When it comes to vaginal solo pleasure, there are so many ways to go about it. You can use your favorite vibrator or dildo, but of course, you can use your fingers.

Fingering is one of the easiest ways to enjoy solo pleasure. Learning how to finger yourself is a skill that every woman should know. It can provide immense pleasure and satisfaction, not to mention that it’s a great way to get orgasms when you’re on your own.

In this blog post, I will teach you the basics of fingering yourself, as well as some tips and tricks to make this way of masturbation an even more pleasurable experience. So whether you are a fingering newbie or someone with experience read on and start exploring your own body in new and exciting ways!

Why Fingering Yourself

Masturbating is very normal. Almost everyone does this or has done this in their lives. Don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t enjoy yourself!

Fingering is a way of female masturbation and is supposed to be enjoyable, so do whatever you want to make yourself happy. It can help increase your sexual pleasure,  and overall satisfaction and does have health benefits.

Fingering yourself can help you become more comfortable with your own body and increase your confidence in sexual situations; If you’re a virgin, fingering is a good way to prepare for fucking. Not only do you know how it feels to have something in your vagina, but you also know what you like and don’t like!

Quote from Lena: “When I use my fingers to touch my body, it feels amazing. The sensation is so pleasurable that it feels like pure ecstasy. Every time I touch myself in this way, it feels like I’m discovering something new and exciting. My fingers feel incredibly sensitive as they glide over my skin, and the pleasure builds until it’s almost unbearable. But it’s a good kind of unbearable, one that makes me want more and more. I can’t get enough of this feeling, and I hope I never do.” 

Get in the Mood and Become Aroused

Without sexual thoughts, we wouldn’t feel the need to finger ourselves in the first place. How do you become sexually aroused?

Outside Influences

First of all, I’d like to point out that sexual arousal takes place in our heads. But by using your senses several outside influences can cause you to become aroused. I’ll mention a few: 

• Smell/scent: A certain smell can turn you on. Whether it is a certain perfume or your own or someone else’s body odor.
• Sounds: Think of the typical sex sounds such as moaning and panting and a bed squeaking and creaking. But just talking about sex or listening to an audio book can also get you in the mood.
• Seeing: You probably think of seeing an attractive person or people having sex. But seeing a certain setting where you would like to have sex is also a big turn-on. And of course, the common things that many women use to get aroused:
  • Visiting erotic sites: You could also use the internet to stimulate your fantasies. Watching porn is very common. Nowadays many porn sites cover almost anything you can imagine.
    
    But you can also think of chat rooms and specific dating sites in to find partners for sexual activities. Ultimately, how you choose to use the internet to stimulate your fantasies is up to you. However, it is important to be mindful of potential risks, such as exposure to malware or worse.
  • Erotic stories: The great thing about stories is that they rely more on your imagination. There’s a reason why women like “Fifty Shades of Grey” because the book is well written, engaging, and a good example of how a dominant/submissive sexual relationship can work. 

Use your Imagination 

Even without outside influences we can become aroused. We humans can influence our mood through our imagination. This means that we can arouse ourselves by fantasizing about sex. But what do we fantasize about? There is no one answer to this question, as every woman has different fantasies.

But here a some of the most common fantasies:

• Having sex with someone we have a crush on.
  
  Quote from Lena: “Another thing I love to do is fantasize. I’ll think about a hot guy I’ve seen or a scene from a movie that turned me on. It helps get me in the mood and can make my orgasm even more intense.”
  
• Being submissive to a dominant partner.
• Having sex with a woman.

Fantasies can also be based on exploring kinks and fetishes such as:

• Participate in a threesome or orgy.
• Role playing.
• Voyeurism/having sex in public.
• BDSM.
• Specific body parts like feet or armpits. 

Much more is possible in your imagination. Ultimately, what turns each of us on is unique and you will find that out as you gain more experience during your sex life.

Allow your imagination as much as possible and enjoy it. Whether you do something with it is of course your responsibility.

How to Finger Yourself

Once you are aroused and ready to finger yourself there are a few things you should consider:

• Practice hygiene: Ensure clean hands and fingers. Trust me: You don’t want to get a vaginal infection due to dirty hands. Also, wash your hands after fingering.
• Get privacy: Make sure that you are in an area where you will not be seen by others (unless you want to). This could mean finding a private space in your home, which is most likely your bedroom. Or find another place where you can be comfortable on your own.
  
  If you’re outside, for example, make sure that there is not someone walking by who could catch a glimpse of you.

Take your time: Make sure you’ve got the time to masturbate. Unless you are experienced, I’ll advise you to take your time for your moments of pleasure.

For now, I assume you have gone to your bedroom. Please close and lock the door. Create a more intimate atmosphere by closing the curtains. That could even mean dimming the lights or even light some candles.

If you feel the need to be further aroused by smelling, looking at, or listening as I mentioned above, then do so!

Now, lie on your back on your bed and relax. Breathe in and breathe out…..

Right, take off your pants, but not your underwear yet. Rub between your legs for a while and relax! Then take off your underwear. You can go completely naked if you want to, but that’s not necessary.

Start by caressing the inside of your thighs with your finger tips and move slowly towards your vulva. Gently stroke your labia and clitoris if you find that pleasurable. The clitoris has many nerve endings and is very sensitive. 

You’re probably already wet. Your vaginal wetness caused by arousal acts as a natural lube which will make fingering easier.

Ready?

Basic Fingering Technique 

When it comes to fingering, there are many different techniques that girls and women use.

I recommend you start with the most simple and common technique: use one finger at first. See which finger you would like to use. Most women use their index finger, but you could use your pinky finger as well. Now go gently with your preferred finger in your vaginal canal. This is very easy to do.

For most women, it feels very good, but if it hurts you in any way, stop immediately. You can always try it later. If it feels good to you, you can make circular motions with your finger to explore how it feels for you.

Tip: If your vagina is not wet enough, use a lubricant. A water-based lubricant or a silicone lube is excellent.

Start with shallow penetration: go slowly in and out with your finger, and again notice how it feels. 

If it feels good for you, then go ahead and add another finger! You’ll notice when you’re ready.

Most girls and women use two fingers because adding an extra finger can provide more stimulation and make the experience more pleasurable. Some use their middle and ring fingers, while others prefer to use their index and middle fingers.

Of course, you can use as many fingers as you want to. Experimentation is key, so feel free to try different things and see what feels best for you.

Quote from Els: “I suggest using three fingers for pleasure. For me, this just feels better, because I don’t get enough pleasure with just one or two fingers. Now and then, I use my thumb to rub my clitoris at the same time for even more stimulation. And I experiment a lot and try to find what feels best!”

Increase your pace! Make your movements longer and go for deeper penetration.

Different Fingering Techniques 

Now that you understand the basics of fingering, I will explain how to use various fingering techniques.

Change Speed

Playing with the speed of how you finger yourself is perhaps the easiest you can do. Some prefer to move as quickly as possible, others prefer to move slowly and rhythmically. Or go in quickly and out slowly and vice versa.

Different Finger Movements

The way you move your finger(s) in your vagina can make a big difference:

• Push or stroke your fingers past your vaginal walls.
• Wiggle back and forth or up and down with your fingers.

G-spot Fingering

If you’re on a high level of arousal and you want to experience intense orgasms, focus on your G-spot.

The location of the G-spot varies from woman to woman. For one woman, it is close to the entrance to her vagina, while for the other, it is further back. Roughly between 1 and 2 inches from the entrance of the vagina.

You can feel it against the upper wall of your vagina, below your bladder. It can feel like a soft lump or like the outside of a small fruit with ridges. Many ladies may feel like they have to pee when they touch it.

Tip: Go to the toilet and pee before you want a G-spot orgasm.

Now it’s time to use your fingertips! With these simple fingering techniques you can get your O-moment:

• Pressing techniques: Direct pressure against your G-spot with your fingertips can cause you to come. Pressing can vary from gentle pressing to firm pressing. In addition, you may prefer to keep pressing your G-spot continuously or occasionally.
• Rubbing techniques: Rub your G-spot with one or two fingers. Move your fingertips back and forth or turn in circles.

Side note: Don’t worry if you can’t find your G-spot or simply don’t care for it. There are plenty of women who can’t experience a G-spot orgasm.

Chances are that it feels so good to finger yourself, that you start to gasp or moan, even before you feel yourself coming to an orgasm.

Please, don’t hold back unless you feel uncomfortable that someone might hear you. Moaning out of pleasure is very normal. 

Besides, it’s one of the most erotic and intimate things you can share with a partner. When you gasp and moan from the depths of your soul, it communicates to a partner that they are hitting all the right spots and that you are truly enjoying yourself. Not to mention, it just feels really good!

If you’re not already moaning during sex, I highly recommend giving it a try. The next time you and your partner are getting hot and heavy, let loose and see how much better things can get. So, this is a great way for you to practice! 

Change your position

There is no one “right way” to finger yourself, as everyone enjoys different types of stimulation. It’s the interplay between the use of your fingers and the position of your body. Just as there are different sex positions, there are various positions in which you can finger yourself. However, certain positions can lead to more intense and pleasurable sensations. We will describe some to you:

Legs Up 

This is a variation of the positions written above. Spread your legs and raise them slightly. In this position, it looks like you’re about to be examined by a gynecologist or ready to have sex

When you get in this position, you can pull your legs up further to improve the blood flow, which will help you get your fingers in deeper. This way, you can go deeper inside your pussy with your fingers. This is a great way to get a G-spot orgasm.

Lie on Your Stomach

You might prefer to lay down on your stomach. You can decide for yourself whether it feels good to spread your legs to keep them together.

This position to finger yourself is also great while you’re getting a massage from your lover or if you like to be stimulated anally. Some girls and women prefer something like a pillow under their belly too.

Quote from Melissa: “Lying on my bed on my stomach is one of my favorite things to do. It’s so relaxing to feel the sheets against my skin and the weight of my body pushing down. It’s like all my troubles are forgotten for a little while when I’m in that position.”

Sitting

Of course, you don’t have to lie down for your moment of solo pleasure. Sitting in a comfortable position will do the trick too.

This is also a great way to watch porn or other erotic material on your computer. Try putting your legs on the desk and spreading them. Get kinky and put on your webcam and surprise your partner, if you dare 😉

Variation Tips

Aside from using just your fingers, there are several ways to make your fingering game more exciting.

Use a lubricant

Not only are lubricants useful for having sex, but you can also use them for solo pleasure. As I mentioned above, using a lubricant is an effective way to ease any discomfort while fingering yourself.

A good lubricant should not only feel good, but it should also provide some extra protection for your sensitive skin. When it comes to solo pleasure, there are a few different types of lubricants to choose from:

• Natural lubricant: Some ladies swear by using olive oil, coconut oil, and aloe vera. However, I advise you to be careful with these products or at least try a little bit first and see how your body reacts to them. Allergic reactions, a changing pH value of the vagina, and stains in clothes and bedding are common complaints.
• Water-based lubricant: This lube is perfect for general use. It does not irritate your vagina and it is easy to clean.
• Silicone-based lubricant: This lube is also fine to use, but unlike the water-based variant, it is usually more expensive and leaves stains on clothing or bedding.

In addition to the regular lubricants, there are also stimulating lubricants that will give you a more special feeling. I’ll name a few for you:

• Tingling lubricant: As the name suggests, this lubricant gives you a tingling sensation.
  Quote from Lucie: “I love the incredible sense of tingling between my legs.”
• Warming lubricant: Try a warming lube to replenish the blood supply to your private areas for a faster and more powerful climax. Many girls in my circle of friends experienced a more intense orgasm by using this lubricant.

Externally, the tingle or warmth can provide extra clitoral stimulation.

Internally these lubes are useful for G-spot stimulation; Apply the lubricant to your finger and then insert it into your vagina.
Gently move your finger in and out of your vagina, applying more pressure as you reach the G-spot. You can also rub your finger in a circular motion around the G-spot. Continue until you reach an orgasm.

And if you notice your vagina isn’t wet enough, I recommend you try these lubricants too.

In the Shower

It’s surprisingly nice to finger yourself while showering. The warm water provides the necessary relaxation. Moreover, you can combine fingering with masturbation with a shower head.

Finger Vibrator

Brrrrrrrr…. Yeah, take your fingering session to the next level with a finger vibrator!  They come in different shapes and sizes.

They slip easily on one of your fingers and are made of silicone, which is easy to clean. Most of the finger vibrators are waterproof and have different vibration modes.

Some find it perfect for G-spot stimulation too. So, there must be something for you to enjoy.

Use a Condom

When using a condom you naturally think of safe sex. But you can also masturbate with a condom. Yes, ladies, it is special even for us. 

If you don’t like putting your bare fingers in your vaginal canal, this will be a solution. And because condoms come in many types, such as with ribs & dots or lubricant, it feels very different. Moreover, it is of course a good preparation for when you are going to have safe sex with someone.

Anal Masturbation

Try alternating fingering with anal stimulation or do it at the same time. Whether it is anal fingering or anal satisfaction with a sex toy we got you covered in this article.

Fingering in Front of Partner 

It can be very exciting to masturbate in front of your partner. Let your partner watch you without touching you. And enjoy how the two of you become more and more excited.

As a variation on this, you sit opposite or next to each other and start fingering or masturbating.
Make it a masturbation game and see who comes first. These types of games will contribute to an improved sex life.

How to Finger Yourself: Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

I’m not getting wet enough, what should I do now?

I suggest you use plenty of lube. Use as much as you like, because it won’t harm you. As you get older or in certain periods of your life, your vagina becomes less wet (quickly). If it is permanent or bothers you, I recommend you see a doctor.

I’m on my period, can I continue fingering?

Yes, if you feel like fingering during your period go ahead. Check out this article for more advice!

Can I finger myself during pregnancy?

Sure, read our detailed post here for more information.

Conclusion

There you have it. I hope I was able to help you and that you know how to finger yourself and what variations there are.

Whatever way you choose to finger yourself it’s your own personal experience. Make it as fun as possible by taking good care of yourself and listening to your own body. Experimentation is key, so have fun and go with what feels good.

Enjoy yourself!